As making friends can sometimes be even more of a challenge for the taller woman and because this got such a positive response in the #TeamTall group, it felt right to share it here too – Originally published in Stylist Magazine: How to “friend date”: the art of pursuing new female friendships (by Moya Crockett – 10/08/2016)
How did your friends become your friends?
Most of the relationships we form throughout our childhood, teens and early twenties are circumstantial. In all likelihood, most of your friends are your friends because you caught the bus to school together, or shared a kitchen in your university halls, or sat next to each other in an office once upon a time. You probably won’t remember the moment you ‘decided’ to become friends, because it didn’t involve a conscious choice at all. It just sort of… happened.
But sometimes, building friendships requires a little more conscious effort. Perhaps you find yourself living in a new city, miles away from your old gang, and suddenly your diary looks frighteningly empty every weekend, and you realise that you’re going to have to take decisive action if you don’t want to drown in all that blank space.
Or maybe you end up in random conversation at a party with a woman you’ve never met before, a woman who seems kind and cool and wise and funny, and is wearing great shoes, and you walk away thinking in a small, playground voice: “I would really like to be friends with her.”
The problem is this: most of us are so used to our friendships evolving ‘naturally’ that the thought of actively pursuing new female friendships can feel a bit daunting.