Do you have a good relationship with yourself? The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. A healthy self-relationship is the ability to value yourself as a person and embrace your strengths and weaknesses.

An unhealthy relationship and a lack of self-acceptance and self-love turns up the volume on negative thoughts. This is when we fall into an unhappy place. We become stuck, and end up doing things we don’t really want to do in life.

Learning to love and care for our bodies (I know) is easier said than done. It can be a daunting process, and there will be setbacks. But accept these setbacks and use them towards bettering the relationship you have with yourself.

Find your own reason for a happy, healthy life

Living a healthy lifestyle because you “should” is not sustainable. You won’t enjoy it and it’ll feel like a chore, or even punishment. Find YOUR reason to exercise or eat better, a reason that doesn’t revolve around a sense of obligation. Think of how lucky you are to be able to do these things. That you have the choice, and are able to exercise. Be proud of every improvement you make, pay attention to every little detail and change, however big or small.

How do you want to be treated?

Practice self-care. The relationship you have with yourself is as important, if not more important than any other. Learn to treat yourself with respect, love and dignity. Listen to what your body wants and needs. The more you treat your body with the loving kindness it deserves, the more you will learn to naturally love it, and the more it will love you yourself

Let go of judgement

Sometimes when we are hard on ourselves and in our deepest moments of insecurity, we can be extremely judgmental of others. It’s a bizarre way of making ourselves feel better, but as we all know, it is deeply unkind and wrong. So next time you notice you or others around you judging the way other people look or behave, remove yourself from the situation. Practicing kindness and acceptance towards others is a great step to becoming more mindful about our own thoughts and actions.

Accept yourself

Control your internal thoughts, don’t let yourself talk to you like that. How many times a day do you tell yourself something negative? Think about it like this – would you say these things to your friend? No, probably not. So work on battling your inner critique, swap your negative thoughts for positive ones, and begin to become your own best friend. Someone who can learn to accept and love themselves with exude confidence and beauty, both inside and out.

No one is perfect…no, really!

Studies show that perfectionism is strongly linked to depression. Maybe you spend a long time getting ready before going out, and you obsess over the tiny weeny details, putting unnecessary pressure on yourself to look a certain way? Exhausting, right? Been there, done that. Save the time you spend telling yourself you’re not good enough, and instead learn to accept yourself for who you truly are – even the parts that you deem to be imperfect.

Author Pollyanna is a Bikini Fitness Athlete, Fitness Model and the force behind her Health, Fitness & Lifestyle blog, Pollyanna Isabella

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